If you’ve ever lived with a cat, you know that they have their own ways of showing affection, which don’t always align with human expressions of love. They might not always be in the mood for cuddles or kisses, even though they can be incredibly snuggly when they choose to be.
Cats are unique creatures, each with their own temperament influenced by their age, upbringing, and genetics. However, one universal truth is that to truly bond with these independent furballs, we need to respect their boundaries. So how can we tell our cats we love them in a way they’ll understand?
The Magic of the Slow Blink
It’s often said that blinking slowly at a cat shows them that we love them and that they can trust us. And if they return the slow blink, it’s believed to be their way of saying they love us back. But is this really true, or just a cute myth?
According to Mikel Delgado, Ph.D., a cat behaviorist and scientist, the slow blink is indeed rooted in science. “There’s been research behind the slow blink that suggests cats do slow-blink in return and they respond positively to it,” Delgado explained on the HuffPost podcast “Am I Doing It Wrong?”
Delgado elaborates that slow blinking at a cat is a non-threatening gesture. In the wild, direct staring can be seen as a threat, so a slow blink signals that we are not a danger. It’s a peaceful, friendly gesture that cats understand.
Understanding Cat Behavior
While cats might see us as a kind of parental figure, they don’t actually mistake us for other cats. They do, however, engage in behaviors they associate with positive interactions, such as raising their tails, nuzzling our faces, and, of course, slow blinking. Delgado points out that these behaviors are ways cats communicate comfort and friendliness with each other and, by extension, with us.
Other Tips for Cat Love
Besides slow blinking, there are other ways to show your cat love in a language they understand. Knowing where and how they like to be petted is crucial. For instance, many cats prefer gentle strokes along their back or under their chin rather than heavy petting on their belly or tail, which can be sensitive areas.
Creating a comfortable environment is also key. A well-maintained litter box, cozy sleeping spots, and plenty of opportunities for play and enrichment can go a long way in making your cat feel loved and secure.
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